I’m guilty.

Spending the last week with my mother, who has Alzheimer’s, had me focused on what I’d already lost — and fearful about the slipping away that’s yet to come. There was plenty of self pity and some searching for sympathy.

It wasn’t until I had dinner with a friend — whose mother also had Alzheimer’s — that I realized the true cost of my fixation on loss.

This two-minute video explains what we miss — at work and at home — when we let fear take center stage and crowd out other ideas and emotions that energize us.

Yes: I’ve pooh-poohed the “think happy thoughts” movement. This isn’t about being a Pollyanna. It’s about more clearly seeing and appreciating what’s in front of you.

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